There is MUCH joy in sitting across from a dear friend over lunch. Friends for over 25 years. A long four hour lunch. Lots of catching up. Lots of chit chat over each others lives and then................
She leans in, she smiles this young girl crushing on a boy kind of smile and says, "Elizabeth I got a good one. He is a hard worker, great provider, a very good lover, even after 40 years. Sure he has gained some weight, but he is a good man. He has always been my best friend.Some seasons in our life he has worked long hours while I was raising our kids, but I never once doubted his commitment and love to me. We have been through a lot together"
This summer my Facebook feed has been filled with the celebration of wedding anniversaries. Some a couple of years, some ten or twenty years or more. That lovely wedding picture posted and my heart leaps with great joy, followed by sadness. Sad that I have no such celebrations. Only for a moment and then joy sweeps in. I am dating someone that I love. I am like a young girl, listening, taking notes and praying that this man is in fact a good one. As far as love has taken us, he is.
As a single woman twice divorced, it's such a joy to see couples fighting for their love no matter what. With each picture and post that streamed on Facebook, quiet prayers of "keep fighting for your love" because no one else will do that for you. No therapist, no mentor, no attorney. Believe me I know this to well. Those sad endings of your friends and his friends and no one, not one person will stand beside you and encourage you to fight for love. Standing firm and holding hands no matter how life steps in. I have sat back watching, learning and watching some of my closest friends work out love and marriage and seeing how God is growing that love and growing them deeper into a love that only they know and share.That girl me that still dreams and still wants to do the work, the hard work that I never got to do. To then many moons later be with that love. Being twice divorced, evidence of not working through the hard stuff. And here I am sitting and smiling and believing it's out there for all of us somewhere and someday.
Happy Anniversary to all my dear friends who have married good ones. You are always an example to me of commitment and love. I know your stories and I know how you have worked out the hard stuff. Sometimes with grace and beauty and sometimes in messy ways, but you are celebrating and I celebrate with you. Sheri, Stefani, Renee, Lauree, Ann, Kathy, Rita, Deborah, Amanda, Alyson, Alicia, Elliot & Sarah, and so many more. I am cheering you all on to the next years and the rest of your lives with that good one you got. And today as I am holding hands with a man who loves me. Who has began to open in me that we, too can have this kind of love. Thank you John.
And someday, maybe God will take me down this path again.