Wednesday, October 22, 2008

The importance of hugs...

I asked one of my single friends how often she gets hugged? I don't know why I asked? I am a pretty comfortable hugger. My kids have all grown up in my space and we feel comfortable with a hug. I was just curious where single people, if not dating find hugs.

My husband and I agreed a few years ago that hugging each other as he went out the door to work, and then hugging when he returned from work is important to us as couple. For us, we both want to let the other know that no matter what is going on in our lives we are still a team. No matter what mood I am in, how his day went at work, we are still a team. I have guaranteed hugs from my husband and endless hugs from my children. I have been a mom for almost 21 years. That is basically 21 years of hugging and being hugged.

So to look into the face of this sweetheart of a person and hear her say she never is hugged. I just had to hug her no once, but several times. Single people, unless they are living with their parents don't ever get hugged unless it's a friend at an event. I just can not imagine. It made me so aware of how much my older kids miss being hugged, not just by me, but by David and the boys. Elliot will call home often, and say I just want to give David a big bear hug, and just hug my brother's.

If you have people in your life that are single I suggest hugging them. Now unless they have grown up around our house I do not make it a point to hug all my kids friends. I was recently at a concert with Emily. This young man a little older than Elliot, an anointed musician. I was touched by his music and told him that he reminds me so much of my son, that I just have to give you a proud mama kind of hug and he let me and smiled really big.

Pray for those who are single and hug them too.


  1. I try to hug people when we see them, when they come to our house and again when they are leaving. Hugs are so very important!

  2. Here's a (another) hug for you! LOL!

    I have a friend who doesn't love to be touched, so I hug her on purpose whenever I can! :-)

  3. I'm not a hugger by nature, except with my kids. This is an awesome reminder of the need, even though it's not in my comfort zone.

    I will hug my college son a little tighter when he returns!


  4. The touch of another is so important. If not a hug, at least a touch on the shoulder. I truly believe in it. Thanks for writing this.

  5. Hi, my name is sister sheri... and I'm a hugger! I believe in the healing power of a hug... so I spread them liberally. Gee, I think that's the closest I've ever come to saying that I am liberal! LOL!

  6. Hi Elizabeth!
    That was a really, REALLY good reminder. My sister is single- she does have 4 kids... but still- she's probably the one initiating the hugging most often. I will try to remember to hug her more often!! I liked this post ;)

  7. Hi Elizabeth..
    Please come over to my blog there are two awards I want to share with you. I enjoy being a part of the prayer team with all of you at Beloved Mama Prays.

    God Bless Lorie


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