Fast forward many years later and three more kids, all boys added and I beg myself to make it into a day spa. Time does not allow, and often the cost & time out-way my desire for something different. That is the extreme practical side of me.
This past week I was heading into what I call my "Mama Spa". I had this fleeting thought of why I do have balance in my life. A question I get asked often, especially with not only having a big family, but with my work. Two words. "Mama Spa". I make this time for myself. It goes a little like this.... I make the public announcement, lock the bathroom door, assure my family they can live without me. I also, as I almost always must do, reminded everyone that I would not be having conversations through the door. It's "Mama Spa" time.
My bathroom, surprisingly is not an overly designer bathroom. I may be a designer, but much like the peddler's kids have no shoes, this mama does not have the dream bathroom yet. However I am able to embrace a few things to make this "Mama Spa" time happen.
1. Invest in plush white towels.
2. Ignore Your Reality
3. Light or "turn on" a handful of candles.
4. Assemble the treatments for your "Mama Spa"
5. Enjoy for as long your water remains hot and then add some more.
6. Cozy into something lovely, even if for a moment.
7. I don't drink wine.
I think we often feel like we have been robbed of some of the finer things in life, like a spa day. We work hard as women. I work hard. We need to have balance and a time to plan and regroup. Hundreds of decisions have been made at this "Mama Spa." Most important is that I am honoring myself and my need for a break. There are many ways to add balance and have that break. I hear most often, "I wish I had time to go to a spa." Or this one, "I still have that spa gift certificate from last year that I need to use. " A girlfriend shared that one with me last week. I told her to just re-gift it. But not to me, I have my own spa right upstairs off the back wing of my home. Now no more dreaming about going to the spa. You can create your own space and time right in your home. Call it your "Mama Spa".