Have you ever been a part of something that was quite hurtful by another.? I think we can all pretty much raise our hands. I think for me the most hurtful times are when I have been lied to or deceived. And then when truth is discovered and you go to the person it's blown off as something of a thoughtless act or worse "I was just joking...really".
Today in my daily Proverbs reading I landed on Provers 26: 18 & 19 which reads:
" Like a madman who throws fire bands, arrow and death,
So is the man who deceives his neighbor, And says, "Was I not joking?"
Meaning as referenced in the Bible as simply this:
The person who makes a joke of his thoughtlessness is a dangerous person to be around.
As I got thinking about this one verse I was reminded of a recent situation with my daughter about a person who made her very uncomfortable. To the point she discussed it with David and me. We were concerned and this person was addressed concerning their behavior. To which the response was.....ahhhh I am just joking. Even more frustrating and dangerous if you ask me. So to read this verse I thought of how I respond when I have been thoughtless. Do I excuse my behavior or do I own the part I have had.
Any time our actions have disturbed another do we explain away our behaviors or do we accept that we have hurt someone? Own it and take responsibility whether we believe we are right or wrong. The danger in our relationships is to allow and keep the facade that every thing is okay when in fact there is danger in that person, that friendship that thoughtlessness of one who does not own it with humility, but passe's it off as some sort of joke.
I have had to walk away from those whom I know that deceive and are not able to hear truth, not from my own mouth, but through the Word of God. I have said this often and I work every single day as a sinful person to never use the experiences of my life to excuse my behaviors and I realize every day that the Bible has no disclaimers to life experience, temperaments, or all the stuff that is sour in our lives. We are called by Him to walk beside Him. Being honest and honorable. No easy task, but I can first start by being mindful of my actions towards others and believe me this is no joking matter. Those who know me in real time know that I love to laugh, joke around, but never at the cost of deceit and hurting another. I trust those who are close to me to help me stay in line too.
I just love when one little verse weighs so heavy on my heart that I would blog about it.